A lot of people choose their jobs by the work they are going to do, as they probably should, but where we work and with whom is not less important. Especially for our well-being.
Our colleagues and our bosses have a huge impact on how we perceive our work experience. Ultimately, the truth is you’re not going to change your boss or co-workers but the energy you’ll bring will help you create a more positive environment t work. How? I’m glad you asked.
First of all, Moods are very contagious so as Gandhi said: “Be the change you want to see in the world” or at least at your workplace. So put your “happy” on, show respect, be patient and kind and you’ll be guaranteed to get some good vibes back.
Be the person you would want to work with because like attracts like. It’s really easy to get caught up in the hectic workday, give in to the stress or get sucked to gossip and negativity that’s all around you. Become that ideal co-worker you’re dreaming of and the rest will follow.
Start your day with a warm greeting. When you walk into the office say “Hello”. Use people’s names for that extra personal touch. Greet people walking in with a genuine, warm smile and a handshake. If it’s appropriate where you work – throw in a hug too!
I’m a huge fan of hugs myself because I really believe in their power. Check out this post explaining the undeniable power of a simple hug.
Don’t treat your co-workers as just that. You spend so much time with them so might as well get to know them –who knows? You might even make a friend.
Make the effort to connect and engage in meaningful conversations. Ask about their families and lives, how was their evening or weekend and be genuinely interested in their answer. Make them feel important by not only asking but also listening and being empathic. For example, if a co-worker shares that their family member is undergoing surgery, make sure to follow up and ask how they are doing the next week.
Don’t be a selfish SOB. If your team member needs help – lend them a hand, cover for them in front of your boss or just do something kind for someone else (without them asking for it). Don’t see your job as a competition but as a team effort– there is enough room at the top for everyone. By helping someone else succeed, you’re actually helping yourself.
When someone does something nice for you – thank them. Show appreciating to your co-workers, your teammates AND your boss. Don’t take anything anyone does for you for granted (good advice for life in general LOL). You’ll be amazed by the power of gratitude…
Compliment others on a job well done, on their outfit today or on anything nice you find in them. Give them a thumbs up but also be specific when you acknowledge great work. Use phrases like: “I’m impressed with the way you…”, “You’re really good at…”, “I really enjoy working with you because you are…”. Flattery, sincere flattery, will get you far.
Most workplaces are heterogeneous (regarding age, race, gender, religious etc.) so it’s important to make sure everyone feels comfortable and at ease. I personally avoid talking at work about “hot topics” and appreciate people doing the same. Not to mention, no sexist, resist or offensive jokes. Also, make sure to be clear regarding your own personal boundaries and topics that are off-limits to you.
Yeah, it might be fun to engage in a heated political discussion over lunchtime but you can never know on whose toes you’re stepping with your opinions. In my perspective, issues like that are better saved for home/friends or discussed with people that you made sure you know they’re ok with that.
I know how difficult your work can get, how annoying your boss is sometimes and how your co-workers can drive you crazy. I especially know how easy it is to get couth up with all the negativity going around. When all you wanted is to vent about your day, you end up absorbing all this negativity around you.
Chose to be happy. Period. And then bring that energy with you to work. Try to avoid negative talk, gossip, and grumpy people as much as you can and to focus on the positive in every situation.
For some more happiness resources, please read:
Discover the 3 simple steps you need to take to become happier right now Happiness Hacks: 10 ways to be happier in under 10 minutes a day
70 easy ways to feel happier
Work doesn’t have to be all business, all the time. On the contrary, it’s important to have a healthy balance between work and play. Try some of these: 20 Life-changing ‘fun at work’ hacks to spices up your workday.
Furthermore, try to spend some time together outside of work. I know it might be awkward at first but once you get to know people beyond their job title and outside their “work mode” you’ll see them in a totally different way on the job as well. Getting to know people on a more personal note will eventually create a more comfortable and pleasant working environment.
Spread your happiness around like it is Christmas time all year long. Bring in a treat or a surprise to work – nobody can stay grouchy when there are brownies on the table.
Celebrate. Both small wins and big occasions. And do it with wine – trust me, you’re bound to be happy with wine.
But most important, Smile. It will do wonders for your mood and for others.
I believe everyone deserves to love going to work. Sure, sometimes we don’t get to work at our dream job (for now) or we’re having a rough time but I believe that in the end, it’s the small stuff that counts. You might not remember the mistake you made (as huge as it may seem to you now) if you finished your workday on a positive note, with a cookie in your hand and a good word from your boss.
I know that some of this may seem a bit “obvious” to you but nonetheless, a lot of (us?) tend to forget it. Be mindful about your work vibes but also remember: change doesn’t happen in a day so don’t be discouraged if this doesn’t work immediately. Be persistent and have faith your hard work will pay off.
P.S. I would love to hear more from you! Did you find this helpful? Comment below with questions, comments, or what you would like to see in future posts